It Must Be True Love

Who do we fall in love with? Why do we start to love them in the first place? These are just some questions I have about the person we are trying to find.

Some people call them soulmates, others kindred spirits, but when it all comes down to it, it is the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

Something that both of my grandparents have taught me is that the people we are going to spend our lives with can be anyone.

My grandmother and grandfather, Joan and Robert, had known each other for two years before they started dating. They were on a double date, both with other people, and when Robert dropped Joan off at her house, he asked her on a date and after that, they kept on dating.

Joan talked about the dates that she would go on with Robert. She said, “a lot of the times he would take me out on Saturday. My mother would make hot dogs and beans every Saturday so I would have him take me out so I could eat something different.”

Talking with her about how she met my Grandpa made me think about how most of the time when we meet someone they could be someone that we spend the rest our lives with and we have no idea that they are that person.

The same goes with my other Grandmother, Loretta. When she met her husband, she was just going to go on a date with him for her friend. She never expected anything to come out from it.

You see, her friend was going to go to a dance with him, but decided she wanted to go with someone else instead. Her friend pushed her to ask my Grandpa, John, and back then no girl would ever ask a guy out. But Loretta did and they went dancing together.

She didn’t think that he would ask her out again, but he did. Unfortunately, she was going home for the weekend but when she got back, he was waiting for her on the train platform, a sweet gesture that ended up with them being together forever.

I didn’t realize that most people don’t fall in love at first sight. It takes time. As Marvin J. Ashton said, “True love is a process. True love takes time.”

Knowing how other people have fallen in love has taught me to be patient with love. It isn’t going to be something where I know a day after I’ve met a guy that he is going to be the one. He is going to be someone that I will fall in love with, in time.

Love isn’t a race. It is a process.